Month: September 2005

This was supposed to be the week where I finally settled in to the school schedule and got the chores under control. The calendar was fairly empty. Here I am at Thursday. I’ve been busy all week and most of the chores are still not done. On Tuesday I was reporting a lost day. I think I’m really close to having to report a lost week.

TODAY:
6:45 get up
7:00 get everyone else up
7:15 breakfast
7:50 drive Link to school
8:00-8:25 Kiki takes a “quick” bath I seize a moment to read email & news
8:25-8:45 Kiki styles her hair, I change laundry loads & read webcomics
8:45 Kiki announces “look what I did!” Her hair and Patches hair are slicked down with so much hairgel that the hair has formed into a protective helmet. It is too late to do anything but let her go to school that way.
8:50 Drive kiki to school
9:05 we arrive back home and Patches touches his now dried-into-a-shell hair and tells me “My hair is yuck.” I reach to try to ruffle it up a little and the over-gelled hair scratches my finger. A bath is definitely in order, but I come into the house and get distracted.
9:10-9:40 doze on the couch while Gleek and Patches watch Scooby doo
9:40-11:00 Gleek & Patches ride bikes I do some long overdue yardwork
11:00 I get stung by a wasp which somehow crawled up inside my gardening glove.
11:00-11:30 treated the wasp sting, put away gardening gear, and kept close tabs on myself to see if I would have a reaction.
11:30-12:30 lunch, puttering in the house, and putting Patches down for a nap.
12:30-1:45 I think this time disappeared into the sucking black hole that is the internet. Not sure though.
1:50-2:40 Walked to Link’s school to retrieve him, took Gleek on an emergency potty run, sent Link back to his class for forgotten items, walked back home.
2:40-3:15 helped Link do his homework because I knew we wouldn’t have time later
3:30-3:50 Picked Kiki up from school. All the way home I had to listen to plans from her about how she could get to the entire safety fair without having to go to Link’s soccer game first.
3:50-4:40 Food, book, and ignoring of the children.
4:40-4:55 mad scramble to get soccer clothes on Link, shoes on everyone else, load chairs, fix sandwiches, fill water bottles, and out the door.
5:10 we arrive 10 minutes late for Link’s soccer game.
5:10-6:00 Soccer game while refusing to allow Gleek to run off to the park by herself, there was also an emergency potty run involving Gleek.
6:00-6:15 drive straight to Kiki’s school safety fair.
6:15-7:45 School safety fair. This was an event I did not want to attend at all. The kids loved it. They got to play on giant inflatable slides. Kiki got to dunk teachers. Patches got to touch a helicopter, a firetruck, and an ambulance. We got to watch the helicopter take off. They played on the playground for a long time as well. Face painting and freebies were also there. These kind of events when held by Link’s school are almost pleasant because I am constantly running into friends and neighbors with whom I can exchange casual chit-chat. I don’t know anybody at Kiki’s school. I think I just need to stay in this house forever because I have 8 years worth of friendships accumulated. I know pretty much everyone who lives in a three block radius. The isolation at Kiki’s fair pointed out how much I don’t want to have to start from scratch in a new place. The kids loved the fair. I was exhausted by it. We had a lost dollar crisis, a potty crisis, and several “where is my child?” moments.
8:00-8:40 back home, make the dirty sticky hair-gelly children get into their pajamas and into bed. I momentarily considered baths before bed, but I was too tired to want to do that.
8:40-9:15 writing this entry.

So now I guess I know exactly where today went. That’s useful I suppose. I just wish more of what I’d done had a satisfactory “I accomplished something” feel to it.

Yesterday began at 6:45 am. (Theoretically all my weekdays begin at 6:30, but I never seem to be able to get out of bed without pushing snooze at least once.) Thus began the before school scramble. I walked Link to school. That was 1.5 miles round trip, but it should count for more because I was pushing a stroller laden with 80+ lbs of Gleek and Patches. I came home and did some heavy lifting in the form of large loads of laundry, some of it wet. I also mowed the lawn which is a 2 hour long wrestle with 90 lbs of wobbly wheeled lawnmower. By the end of that, my back was informing me that I should spend the rest of the day being nice to it. After the lawn mowing it was time to retrieve Link from school which was another 1.5 miles pushed laden stroller. By that time I was in dire need of a shower. When it was time to pick up Kiki I drove. Then I supervised and early dinner while also chivvying Link into doing his homework. Then we all packed into the car for Enrichment night over at the church where I got drafted into doing 3 10-minute presentations on first aid kits as part of a crisis preparedness theme. At the end of the evening I hauled the kids back home and bundled them all into bed as fast as I could. That’s when I discovered that Kiki did not in fact have a light load of homework. She had a heavy load complete with unfinished make-up work. 2 hours later I put her to bed. Staying up an hour past that to watch CSI with Howard was almost certainly a mistake, but I didn’t want to sleep and start a new day without a little down time first.

That was yesterday.

Today began at 6:45. Thus began the morning scramble to get kids off to school…

I started this morning with a whole day ahead of me and a concise list of things to do with it. Now it is 10 pm, I still have the list, but the day is all gone.

I think mostly the culprit is not enough sleep. I have to get to bed on time so tomorrow won’t sneak away from me.
G’night all.

Over the summer I’ve grown kind of tired of hearing about the Hollywood movie slump. Then this fall a survey came out which indicated that the major reason that people aren’t going to the theater is that the movies just don’t interest them enough. Big surprise.

I’ve formed a personal theory about entertainment trends. I think Americans are more interested in long story arcs and character development than they used to be. The movies that were huge sucesses in the past few years were all movies that stood alone, but were also part of a larger story. Lord of the Rings, Spiderman, X-men, Star Wars, I’m sure there are more, but they’ve slipped my mind at the moment. TV has also trended this way. Sit coms with their static characters are not as interesting as dramas with arching storylines. Shows like Lost and 24 take this even farther where each episode is only a fragment of a larger story.

I personally like this trend that I’m seeing. I like seeing characters develop and grow. I like story writing that shifts in response to character growth. It’s one of the reasons I like reading Schlock Mercenary, which incidentally fits right in with this trend.

So, am I seeing something that isn’t there? Are there movies/shows that uphold my theory? Are there movies/shows that disprove it? What do you think?

Link has planned his future. When he grows up he is going to be a gadgeteer and a game maker and a movie maker and a soccer player. He’ll be all these things in rotation, but every fifth week he’ll take a break and just play.

My response to this solemn declaration? “Wow Link, that sounds like fun!”

I just got back from my county health department. Both Gleek and Patches were WAY overdue for immunizations. Gleek got 5 shots and was a very brave little girl about it. Patches, who got 6 shots, screamed and had to be restrained. It took far longer than I expected or wanted it to. I’m an emotional mess because watching my children be injected with possibly harmful liquids does not make me happy.

I wrote in detail about immunizations last year: (http://www.livejournal.com/users/sandratayler/2004/10/07/) I’m too tired to think that coherently today. Today I gave in to health department reasoning and pressure and had both of my little ones given the pertussis vaccination. Apparently incidences of pertussis are on the rise. They also got varicella which is one I’ve never had to deal with before. Whee.

Today I got to play games. A friend had a newly acquired game called Betrayal at the House on the Hill, so he brought it over so that we could all play it. It was fascinating. The opening part of the game has players exploring a haunted house, finding items (both good and bad), and setting up the gameboard. Then the haunting begins and one of the players becomes transformed into a monster. At that point the remaining players are given a set of objectives unknown to the monster. The monster has a different set of objectives unknown to the players. The first one to achieve objectives wins. It was like the best role playing because the story unfolded as we played. I got so wrapped up in the game play that I almost forgot to pick up Link from school.

Since we were playing games we decided to give a second game a chance. It was called Shadows Over Camalot. It was complex, but I loved the way that all the players work cooperatively to try to beat the forces of evil. Link got involved and once Kiki got home so did she(I set a timer to remind me to pick her up).

Now the games are all over and I’m left wanting more. I loved being able to tune out the world and play with people who were just as interested as I was. Fortunately I knew the gaming session was coming far enough in advance that I was able to rent movies to keep Gleek and Patches happy. Unfortunately neither of these games is cheap, and as much as I’d like to, I won’t be able to afford them anytime soon.

Well, I’ve survived my first encounter with a youth soccer game. I have to admit that there were good things about it. I want so much for Link to have a positive experience because I’m so afraid that he won’t. Link finished the game tired and a little frustrated because he didn’t get to kick the ball much and he didn’t get to score a goal. I was ready to try to encourage and coax and praise when I realized that Link needs the same treatment I’ve been trying to provide for Kiki. If Link has a lousy soccer game and decides to hate soccer, then I need to let him feel that way. Trying to talk someone out of feeling upset is never very successful, all you can do is explain in detail why they shouldn’t feel the way that they are feeling. Then they feel dumb as well as upset.

Link’s frustrations were mild. I think by the time soccer practice rolls around he’ll be ready to play again. Time will tell if this interest will last or whether he’ll decide that he’d rather do something else.

My job as a parent is not to make sure he has a good experience. My job is to help him deal with whatever experience he has.

Sharing stories and talking with friends is something with which I am comfortable. Telling stories about my life to strangers is something that makes me uncomfortable. My continuing ambivalence toward the existence of this journal is because it falls under both categories. These past few weeks have been full of events and stories, but few of them have made it into here. Partly that is because I’ve been busy. By the time I have a quiet moment to sit down and type my brain says “Enough!” and goes to sleep.

I want to fill my journal with fun stories and profound thoughts. I want to write about things that I’ll be glad/nostalgic to read about years from now. Lately trying to produce that kind of material has been hard. I hope it is just a product of the “settling in” phase of the school year rather than a longer term result of schedule shift.

After this weekend’s big influx of relatives September’s busiest week will be over. Next weekend is a father/son campout. The weekend after that I’m considering letting Kiki have a video party with some of her school friends. She needs out-of-school events to cement those friendships. Then September 30 is the opening of Serenity. Howard and I will be wanting to go to that. Add to all those events soccer games every thursday and Saturday. Soccer Practices every Monday. Cub Scouts every Wednesday. Kiki’s activity days every other Tuesday. Every day has stuff written on it. No wonder I’m not journaling as much. No wonder I’m tired and the housework isn’t getting done the way it should.

Speaking of which I need to go mop my kitchen floor or else my relatives will all have to extend their visits until they can get unstuck.

I’ve got mice skittering in my walls again. This is shaping up to be an annual fall annoyance. Grr.