Month: December 2006

During the month of November I had a goal to write a blog entry every day. I met that goal. In doing so I seem to have created something of a habit. I’m not complaining. I like having a daily reason to focus my writing capabilities on some topic or another. However to help me out on those days when I would stare at the blank screen at a loss for what to write, I created a list of possible blog topics. I called it my Blogable list. The list was written on post-it notes and stuck to the cupboard door of my computer hutch. I still have the list and I keep adding to it. Somehow the list keeps getting longer rather than shorter.

Several months ago I went back and reread all of my teenage journals. There were many of them filled with endless chatter about peers and my feelings about relationships and my ponderings on my self worth and who I wanted to become and religious musings. 95% of my journals covered these topics. I hardly ever mentioned things I did with my family. I never mentioned schoolwork or my teachers even though they were huge in my life at the time. I never mentioned the things I was learning. As I read back I saw these huge gaps and wished that my teenage self had had a Blogable list so that she could have been reminded of the other things that there were to write about.

I remember those frustrating gaps in my teenage journals and I wonder what gaps am I leaving in this online journal today. I can’t see the gaps from where I’m standing, just as my teenage self didn’t see her gaps. So I am enlisting all of your eyes. Are there things I have mentioned in passing that you’d like to hear more about? Are there things that I completely fail to mention because they seem obvious to me, but aren’t to you? Are there questions you’ve been wanting to ask and have answered? If there are, leave them in the comments below. I’ll add these things to my Blogable list. I give no guarantees that I’ll actually respond to all of the comments. This is a public journal and there are some things that I’m leaving out very deliberately. However it is possible that you’ll provide me with impetus and material to write some entries that will entertain us all.

In each day I only have so much energy to make kids do stuff. On school days I focus on making them get ready for school and making them to homework. On Sunday I concentrate on making them get ready for church and making them behave themselves during church. Since teaching my kids to clean house is part of my parental duties, only Saturday is left for making the house clean. So on Saturday’s I make kids clean house. The problem with this schedule is that I rarely get a break from making them do stuff and they rarely get a break from having to do stuff.

I can’t just let the housework go. That results in a cluttered house and crankiness from everyone. But maybe if I expend just a little bit more energy on weekdays, there won’t be as much housework to do on Saturdays. Maybe I’ll take one Saturday a month and let us all goof off all day. As it stands I’ve been letting us all take a break from school by making us all clean house. When I put it that way, it doesn’t sound like a break at all.

More thought is necessary here.

I’d been occupied in my office for quite a while when I became aware of all the quietness upstairs. The house is pretty quiet when the older three are at school, but usually I can hear Patches clunking or thumping or playing some kind of a game. I went to find out what the total silence meant. I found Patches very carefully cutting up an old flyer sent home from the school. Cutting is an activity I generally try to supervise because kids often get …creative… when left alone with a pair of scissors. In this case no damage was done, so I calmly stepped forward to Patches to ask what he was doing.

“I’m cutting words.” He informed me. I saw that he had indeed carefully cut a strip of words from the page. I then noticed that he was further rendering the strip of words into individual letters. This flier was in a 12 point font and Patches was carefully rendering the entire half page into individual letters. He had already accumulated quite a little pile.
“Are those your words?” I asked pointing to the pile.
“Yeah. It’s a pile for the alphabet song.”

This kid amazes me. He’s three and a half. Where did he get that much patience and persistence?

Howard and I were curled up watching a TV episode before bed when I heard thumping upstairs. I went to investigate and found Patches in the hall with blood all over his face. He was half asleep, confused, and alarmed at the red smears all over his hands. He was vigorously upset with our efforts to clean him off. Then further upset at any suggestion we had to make. It was only when we proved that the bleeding had stopped that he began to relax some.

It is hard to be logical at midnight. Logic is especially hard to come by when you’re holding your blood coated child who is shrieking in uncharacteristic ways. Mostly I was just managing the problem and reassuring Patches, but part of my brain was busily at work providing the direst possible causes for Patches’ nosebleed. Trying to create sinister connections between a sole spontaneous nosebleed and a couple of allergy attacks from other family members was convoluted at best.

Fortunately Patches reassured me by being his normal self once he was calm and demonstrably not bleeding anymore. He snuggled in my lap and watched the online trailers for Meet The Robinsons and Happy Feet. Then he snuggled closer as I tucked him into our bed to go back to sleep. He was out again within minutes.

I hope this nosebleed is a fluke rather than the beginning of a pattern.

I just came back from my first time being a Mom Helper in Gleek’s Kindergarten class. It was wonderful to me to see that they ALL wiggle and yell and wander around aimlessly when they should be doing other things. She fits right in, mostly. I wasn’t worried over nothing, but the fixes are much smaller than I was afraid they would be. Just knowing that I will be in her classroom once a week has brightened Gleek’s life considerably. She’s already counting down until my next Mom Helper day.

I think it also helped tremendously that I kept her home from school on Tuesday. She claimed to be sick that day. She wasn’t, but I knew that Monday was a perfectly awful day for her. The awful Monday on the tails of last week’s difficult school days was a bit too much. She really needed a home day to reset and relax. Specifically, she needed a day at home when her older siblings weren’t around to scold her for anything. Tuesday was wonderful and restful for us both. I didn’t have to negotiate kids in and out of the car multiple times and Gleek played happily with Patches for most of the day. On Wednesday she went back to school agreeably because she knew that the luncheon would be in full swing when she came home. Today she hardly even took time to say goodbye before she skipped happily into the building.

We only have 8 more school days before vacation. Hopefully Gleek will have happy ones with no further crises in them.

We’ve already embarked on that Christmas Season classic tradition known as The Countdown. Link carefully counted days and created a chain for himself. Each morning he tears off a loop and is that much closer to Christmas. Gleek also has a chain. She made hers in Kindergarten, but mostly she just forgets to tear off loops then we have to count and catch up. I don’t think Kiki has a counting system this year, although she usually does. Patches can’t count past five, so he doesn’t have one either.

This year I have my own count down going. But I’m not counting down to Christmas day, I’m counting down until our departure for my parent’s house in California. I’m really looking forward to this trip. I hope the weather cooperates and lets us go. It has been a long time since I’ve had an away-from-the-house vacation. I’m also looking forward to the chance to re-experience some of the tradtions that enriched my childhood years. I have 14 days to go. Fortunately I have plenty of events between now and then to keep my mind occupied. Between homework and ward (church congregation) parties and holiday programs and the holiday mailing rush, I have many many things to do every day.

But none of my many things to do have the same nailbiting stressfullness of the book mailing, so it’s all good.

On Sunday I inventoried everything that I have on hand for the kid’s Christmas. I collect stuff all year long at garage sales or dollar stores or stuff that neighbors are getting rid of. It all goes into this huge box I have in the storage room. Then as Christmas approaches I delve into the overstuffed box to determine which things will make an appearance this year, which things will be held against future Christmases or birthdays, and which things aren’t worth keeping at all. I’m always surprised at the quantity that falls into this third category. What was I thinking when I collected some of this junk?

Our Christmas budget is much larger than it was last year or the year before. For both of those years, our entire Christmas budget was under $100. This year after the sales of the books we have some more wiggle room. We’ve already spent five times that amount providing some of the games and shiny things that we just haven’t been able to afford for more than two years. Part of me feels glad that we are able to do this, part of me feels guilty for abandoning the frugal living principles that pulled us through the past two Christmases.

On the other hand this year I actually feel anticipation for Christmas day rather than fear that my hours and hours of scavenging will leave my kids disappointed at gift opening time. This year I know for certain that each child is getting at least two items which will cause wide-eyed delight. Some of these delight filled items came from my big box. Others came from Amazon.com in shiny new packaging. I don’t miss the nailbiting worry over Christmas giving. Instead I now worry about a slide into commercialism. I also worry about how much we are spending because, while we do have a cash flow, it just barely meets our needs. We need to not be stupid about spending money. This whole Schlock/Tayler Family edifice could still come crashing down if a book fails to sell well enough.

And so I quaver between fearing that we’ve spent too much and wishing we could spend more. Somehow I think that all parents do this every Christmas, no matter what their financial situation.

Today was a rough day all day long. Howard and I had some business/financial issues that absorbed large portions of brainspace and energy for most of the day. In addition to that Gleek had a really bad day at school. She spent most of Kindergarten time sitting in the Power Chair. The Power Chair is where you go sit until you regain your power to control yourself. Gleek doesn’t like the power chair. At all. Her dislike of school has escalated at an alarming rate this past week. Something is going awry there. Starting Thursday I’ll be volunteering in the classroom once per week. Maybe seeing her in the classroom will help me get a handle on where things are going wrong for her. Also I need to snuggle her into my lap for stories at least twice per day for the next while.

Link was emotionally volatile today because he didn’t get enough sleep last night. I put him in bed on time tonight, but last I checked he was still awake. I think I need to be charting his sleep to find the new patterns. I also need to be recording the exact time he gets his medication for comparison purposes and I need to be taking behavioral notes as well. I’ve been doing some of this, but a more focused approach is probably called for. The good news is that even when he was on the edge of tears he was able to form complete sentences to explain what was upsetting him. Without medication he goes completely nonverbal when he is upset. Since he can’t talk it out, he ends up suppressing it.

At dinner hour there was madness. There was howling and growling and property damage. (casualties not too serious, one pencil, one hole poked in a sheet, and a shattered burned out light bulb.) Curfews were stretched and consequences handed out. There were pants that needed changing, twice. There were strewn legos. On the heels of this chaos came homework time and bedtime.

It has not been a good mood day.

Thank goodness for wonderful neighbors. They showed up at our door and sang us carols. Then they gifted us hot chocolate mix and went off into the night. It is amazing how cooperative children get when the possibility of hot chocolate with marshmallows is in the future. Pajamas happened in no time at all. And once the chocolate was gone, they tripped merrily off to bed with only minimal begging for additional treats or favors.

Hopefully tomorrow contains more of the relaxed happiness I’ve been enjoying lately. I’ve grown addicted to that feeling. I missed it today.

I had a whole post planned about the Christmas inventory I did today. It was going to be entertaining and fun. I was going to enjoy writing it. Now it is 9 pm and I finally have time and quiet to write, only I’m too grumpy and tired from all the putting-kids-to-bed to write that post. Maybe I’ll get to write it tomorrow.

I shouldn’t complain. After all, I had vast swathes of free time this afternoon. I just filled them with inventory rather than with writing about doing inventory.

The free time came courtesy of our huge bin of legos. Way back when the very first sets of Star Wars legos made their appearance, Howard longed to own all of them. I aided and abetted this desire and so we used much of our disposable income on lego sets for several years. Then we realized that we were never going to catch up because they’d keep creating more sets. We also realized that we already had about a hojillion legos and didn’t need more than that. At the time our kids were too small to really play with legos. I remember one evening when we were building things when two-year-old Kiki pulled all the heads off of the lego men and lined them up on a flat green board like some sort of a head garden. Or perhaps it was a recreation of the French Revolution. Other than making head gardens, mostly the kids just scattered the legos without really building anything. But now they are old enough to construct. And now we do not have a lego eating baby or toddler in the house. So now is the time for us to put away the duplos and bring out the legos for every day use. The kids are thrilled with this prospect. I’m fairly certain that my vacuum cleaner will be less than thrilled as it eats all the tiny pieces that always get lost in the corners of the room. Hopefully it will be a happy switch and not one that has me ready to tear my hair out and throw all the legos away.

BUT the switch cannot be made until 1 pm on Wednesday after I finish hosting a church luncheon here at my house. The luncheon will have a variety of women and small children invading my house and some of them will not be lego safe. I’m looking forward to hosting this luncheon. It will give me motivation to clean all the corners of my house that I’ve been ignoring for the past several months.

So legos = good. Luncheon = good. Silence from upstairs where Gleek & Patches are in bed while Link is snacking and Kiki is reading = good. What was I grumpy about again?

I now have a matching pair of toy cupboards in my family room. They stand one on either side of the fireplace. They are a monument to order and cleanliness. They have plenty of space to house all of our toys. I have the sneaking suspicion that they will spend significant portions of time emptied of their contents. This is one of the drawbacks to having cupboards large enough for kids to play hide and seek in. Sigh.

I had a joyful surprise in my email last night. A friend that I love visiting with, but never seem to run into, discovered my blog here and emailed me. it turns out that she has her own blog. So now I can keep up with all her stuff conveniently from my computer. Perhaps this will serve as a reminder to me to actually call her and schedule that luncheon we always talk about having, but always forget to do. Her blog is very artsy and cool. After I’ve obtained permission, I’ll send all you fine folks over to look at it. It makes me remember how much I loved studying humanities in college. Someday I’ll have time to study it again I hope.

Oh, and in case anyone is interested, I’ve enabled anonymous comments on my journal here. I realized that I want non livejournal users to be able to comment. This also allows random trolls and spammers to comment. I’m not sure how much of a problem it will be, hopefully not a problem at all.

A final point of interest for today is that our house has been invaded by latin pigs. Kiki has been joyfully using pig latin to communicate things with me without letting the other kids know what she is saying. Only, they can tell she’s saying things sneaky and they invariably want to know what she said. It tends to cause more interest than it keeps secrets. Also parsing hesitantly spoken pig latin is tiresome for me. Fortunately Link is starting to comprehend it, so soon they should be able to speak it to each other and leave me out of the loop.

It is fascinating to watch this folklore get passed from one child to another. They’ve also been teaching alternate versions of Jingle bells. The kids delightedly sing these versions as if they’re new, but I heard them and sang them when I was a child. The approved curriculum is not the only thing that is taught at school. These folkloric songs and rhymes have a life of their own as they are passed from one generation of children to the next. I took a folklore class in college that discussed this phenomenon. It was fascinating to think about. Now it is fascinating to see in action.